Mindfulness isn’t difficult, we just need to remember to do it – Sharon Salzberg
Soooo.. this is a slightly different post from my usual. I’ve had a really tough few weeks, mindset wise which is really hard for me to talk about because I’ve always been a ‘fake it til’ you make it’ kind of girl. I would much rather ride it out alone, than talk about it but I really do want this Blog to be as authentic as it can be, so I thought it was so important to share.
I don’t really know how to explain how I’ve been feeling other than a little bit lost and a lot overwhelmed. For me, its been strange as I’m usually so aware of where my feelings are coming from and I know what my triggers are but this time I’ve been up and down like a bloody yo-yo and I’ve got no idea why?!
I’ve tried my best to get myself back on track, all my routines and tricks that usually work without fail, just haven’t. I have really struggled with just how long it has taken me to get back to myself and I resigned myself to the fact that this is something I am meant to be feeling and have accepted that I’m just going to have to ride it out.
There’s a reason for everything and who knows, maybe my reason was so that I’d write this post?
So one thing is for sure.. It’s really hard to take yourself from one extreme to another. The jump from a negative state to a positive one, is sometimes just too far. So, instead of attempting something that feels near on impossible, I want to talk about taking yourself to a mindful state instead. This means that you’re not changing your emotions as such, you’re just becoming aware of them. You’re getting yourself back to a neutral, grounded state and from here it is much easier to progress to a positive mindset.
Firstly when it comes to emotions, acceptance is step one. If this little lesson has taught me anything, it is that! Notice your feelings, without judgement and just accept them. Don’t ignore them and don’t battle them, just let them come. I am a massive believer in the power of the mind, so anytime my mind goes into a negative place, I do have a slight panic but we are human, we have emotions and unfortunately we can’t always control them.
Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be – Sonia Ricotti
It’s really important to notice your triggers. If you regularly check in with your emotions, you’ll know what these are. People, situations and even places can have an impact on your emotions, so if you find yourself feeling a little bit off and it feels like it has come from nowhere, pay attention to what you were doing beforehand or who you were doing it with. It could be a flippant comment from a stranger that has set you off on a downward spiral, you need to know what these are so you can adjust yourself accordingly.
The body remembers until an event, a touch, a sound, a sight or a person awakens them
Look and listen
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, you are not being present. By consciously paying attention to your surroundings, it brings you right back to the present moment and gets you in that mindful state. Throughout the day, focus on three things that you can see, hear and smell. List them in your head and focus on them for a few minutes.
Wherever you are, be there totally
As you go about your day, count your breaths. Count to three with each inhale and the same with each exhale, do this for ten breaths. This gives you time to realign, brings down your stress levels and gives your mind a little break. Really focus on the actual feeling of your breath going in and out.
The quieter you become, the more you hear
Mindfulness is all about doing one thing at a time and taking one moment at a time. If you’re washing up.. wash up, if you’re brushing your hair.. brush your hair. There is no forward thinking, all you have is now. If you can learn to live this way, it is almost impossible to get stressed. Take everything one moment at a time and when you feel your mind wandering, try some of the above tips to bring yourself back to the present moment.
If you have any of your own mindfulness practices that you put into place, leave me a comment below.. I would love to hear from you.