If you want to make positive changes in your life, the absolute first thing you should do is be grateful for what you already have. I mean really grateful, for everything!
It may sound like hard work, because if you’re not happy with where you are, how the hell are you supposed to feel grateful?! But trust me, what starts as a practice soon becomes second nature.
Your happiness should not depend on any one thing and if you wait for that something that you think will make you happy, you’ll never get there. Gratitude means having that place inside of you, that thing that keeps you going when all your chips are down and if you can truly master this, you’ll never really need anything.
When I started to practice gratitude, I found that my relationships improved, I met amazing people, I seemed to always be in the right place at the right time and I felt untouchable. It honestly opens your eyes and makes you feel like you’ve spent your whole life blindfolded.
All the little things, become the big things. All those things that you never noticed before, become the things that make you feel the happiest. I can look at someone else smiling now and before I know it, I’m beaming too.
At first, you’ll have to look a little harder for it and you might even feel like you’re forcing it to a degree… but keep going! When you come from a place of actively searching for things to be grateful for and expecting them to show up, they do and then some!
You can take a positive from every single experience you’ve had. It may be tiny, but it’s there. Every person you meet or encounter you have, has something to offer you. Look for the good in everything.
Putting it into practice
- Keep a gratitude journal – this is amazing! Get yourself a nice journal and each morning write down 3 things you are grateful for. As and when things happen you can add to it. There is something about writing, you will start with 3 and before you know it, you’ll have a lot more. No matter how small your entries are, write them down. If someone buys you a coffee, pays you a compliment, smiles at you or lets you go in front of them in the queue, write it down.
- Go on a gratefulness rampage – Powerful little exercise right here. I used to do this as I was walking the kids to school because I used to hate doing the school run so it would shift my mindset. The idea here is to just be grateful for absolutely everything. So for me, I would firstly be thankful that I am able to walk my children to school, then it would snowball into feeling grateful for my health, my children, the sky, the trees, the area that I live, the people I saw.. you get my drift. List it all! It will highlight just how much beauty is out there, that you would ordinarily take for granted. It’s not the big things, but the very small ones.
- Put it in perspective – If you think you don’t have a lot to be thankful for, think of the ones that really don’t. There are people a lot less fortunate than you, that are more than happy with what they have. Have a think about all the things you take for granted. These are the big things. Your home, your health, your life, your family and so on. I used to do this with my children, it’s a great way to show them that if the foundations are there, then they’re more fortunate than a lot of others.
If you practice these things daily, it will have a massive impact on your life. It’s easy to be thankful for the big things but its the simplest things that make the biggest difference.
Are you a grateful person? Have you found a practice that works for you? I would love to hear from you!